rehab.

jesus that's your answere for everything look at yourself your not even trying to get clean

he is not going to change untill he is ready not matter what you or his mom do he is not going to change untill he truly wants to. unfortunantly that means hitting his bottom or dying. there is alot of good rehabs out there and thing like na and aa that help. i am here if ya have any more questions.

Sever all ties with him. People in this condition will make no moves toward rehab unless they are all alone in life or family and friends have staged an intervention and threaten to isolate him/her. It's called hitting rock bottom. And as long as you enable your friend by giving the green light to this behavior (yes, you are -- if you have not put your foot down, confronted him and told him you're putting distance between you and him, then you are). So what if he's cute and you'd like for him to one day be your boyfriend. Quit walking on egg shells and beating around the bush. You do him no favors that way. A dead or comatose boyfriend is no fun at all.

that's so stupid you need to let him know that you care and there to help if he wants it people need support trust me i know i've been there and nobody turned there backs on me and now i'm clean and about to sign up for the navy

Perhaps that's why it took you six years to get sober? Look, I'm not talking out of my ear here. I come into contact with addicts on a regular basis as part of my job. Not only do I see them, but I see the devastation they cause their loved ones because of their perpetual foot dragging. And at this stage, the addict needs to get rid of all crutches even if they come in human form. Isolation or the threat thereof is a fantastic motivator. Most times they don't like it. Oh, well. Sometimes the most effective medicine is the kind that tastes the worst.

definetly let him know you are there for him with support and care look into na meetings and dont turn your back on him help him but do not support the habit help him get better to him it will show you care and maybe with just that knowing you care it will click but if not keep trying especialy if he is a friend you help friends not turn your backs on them trust me i know for six years nobody turned there backs on me and im sober thanks to my family and my friends for being ther

Ok well im gonna say this you can not enable a person to do drugs and cutting ties is hard also but once you have shown them how much you care and love them and would do anything for them and have offered all the help that you can give and they dont want it there is nothing left to do but to either cut tiesor go down the long rocky road and like mischerie said its not being mean its just they have to relize that they have nothing and sometimes that helps them come to a bottom quicker and before something severe like jail or death happens cause from what you are saying he only wants to get clean when he gets in trouble then something needs to change around him to make him relize what he is doing to his closest friends and family he will only get and stay clean for himself but it doesnt sound like that gettin in trouble is enough to make him wake up and realize what kind of road hes going down its a rough path sweetie and from experiance myslef i had to lose all my family and friends and everyone and everything around me in order to get clean...