Please help what should I do ???????? Need HELP ASAP!?
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My so called boyfriend (H) took a dollar from me and I dump him for the act of doing this. And I beleive it was to support his nicotine addiction but anyway he has done this in the past and we have gotten into long arguments over this and the last time he swore he would not do it again. Which he did not until now, When I brought it up this time he start bringing up about money he had given me in the past and this weekend we had help me with the kids and everything 2 kids that is. And please don't get it twisted because I don't play house and we do not live together he just comes over and spends the night sometimes. And I dont support him either ,I'll give him like a doller here and there, i guess that's why he had the nerve to tell me that i was lying about money i had , and i was like were not married yet :roll: which were initiating on engagement soon but now "Im like I dont Know "because someones word means a lot too me. We have been together for a little bit over 3 1/2 years now and sometimes I feel this relationship is a henderance because I love my indepedance and being the head in my houshold and he feels that i need to learn to adjust but anyway he has been helping and giving me money but I value RESPECT above all else (Y) . Is this a bad idea that im cutting lose from this over a dollar and from him taking a few dollars in the past and breaking his word??? Oh and did I mention he has a bad cigarette addiction that recently he to be put on steroids for having walking pneumonia from his lungs and asthma and claimed to stop which he did then renig, it is so bad that he looks for cigarette butts to roll new ones up with. :| In case you wondering about the dollar situation well there is this store in the neighborhood that sells single cigarettes for a dollar.   PLEASE HELP !!!!!  I Don't know where to go with this!  :?: :?: :?:

by MissK8577 71 days ago
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Misscherie 63 days ago
All right. Here's the deal: ditch him now. By playing house you didn't get the best of both married and single worlds. Rather, you got the worst of both. The money thing is case in point. Stealing is stealing no matter what amount you steal. This still is a violation of your person. He needs to get a J-O-B to support his own ciggarette habit. Snowballs start small, and as they roll down a hill they get bigger and bigger. This is how guys start out who commit domestic violence. Sever that emotional bond now and don't turn back. Tell that voice inside your head that says, "I can change him. Once he realizes what a great catch I am, he'll turn around" to shut up; and run for the hills! Being a jerk about giving you money for the kids is crap. If they're his kids, then he must help with them -- period!

This guy is being manipulative with your emotions. And that's not right. Tell him to go away and change your phone number and your locks (or better yet move altogether). When he comes around crying that he wants to change, tell him he's full of it if he hasn't actually made the move to go to counselling and been there for at least six months.

Finally, don't get caught up in the lie that you will never find another man to love you b/c you have kids. This is also crap. If anything, having kids will help you weed out the schmucks, since even the mere idea of responsibility makes them run away like Superman from kryptonite. Good men like kids. So this is not a barrier.

I will pray for you. May God bless you and guard you in this endeavor.
saroin420 22 days ago
thing is, if your questioning the intentions of this guy and your thinking abour marrying him. dont marry him. youll find someone. and the thing is if he is asking YOU for money how will you support you in this marriage ?
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