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So Ive been with my boyfriend going on nine months. . . and hes the only guy that I've ever considered or wanted to lose my virginity to -ever. Ive been with a few guys [not sexually] and they've treated me horrible and my current boyfriend is amazing in every way. And I know for sure that if I had sex with him, I wouldnt regret it because he means that much to me. (There's no pressure from him by the way)...

but the thing holding me back is now is that sex can do one of two things;

1) make the relationship stronger

[which would be great but Im not sure if it's going to make him want it whenever we have a minute alone...I mean I'd rather take it slow than speed it up too fast so theres nothing to wait for...]

2) damage the relationship in some way

[and I love this guy too much to have one night ruin our relationship in whatever way people say sex can...]

what do you think about my situation or sex in relationships in general ??

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by StayStrong117 474 days ago

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saroin420 471 days ago

honeslty i myself am a virgin but its so rare to find a guy that doesnt pressure you into having sex. whatever feels right to you. and when it happends it happends. you shouldnt feel guilty either afterwords becuase you lost your virginity. sex is a natural thing and what happends happens and even if it would may damadge your relationship in some way your boyfirend shouldnt fret about it beucase sex is such a small part in relationships.

glitzngabz 470 days ago

If you see he's not pressuring you and you say you wouldn't regret it then you can consider being more intimate with him. Yet don't do it if you feel he's the one who deserves it and stuff, like having sex will make him stay and issues of that. This has to come from you, so just be safe... condoms and other birth control options are available... just do research and talk about it with your partner before.

shellymills714 467 days ago

You won't regret it if your boyfriend isn't pressuring you. Because he wouldn't stay with you from 9 months without sex if that's all he cared about. Take a chance girl you'll be alright. He sounds like an awesome guy. Good luck girl.

timmi 382 days ago

I'm a virgin also and I have a boyfriend whose a virgin. He doesn't pressure me at all to have sex. and your right sex can change your relationship in those two ways and you're just gonna have to figure out if that's a risk you want to take. but i am curious about something, is he a virgin? because if he is he is more than likely to want it anytime you're alone. that's what happened to my boyfriend and i when we started doing other stuff, but i talked to him, if this happens to you two TALK TO HIM about it.

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