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So what's the big deal about GAY marriage? ... Maybe I just don't get it.I grew up in what might be called a "diverse household", in Boise the capital city of Idaho, a fairly conservative town of about 220,000. My mother and Father divorced when I was three and my mother began dating women... No, this wasn't weird. It didn't startle me or freak me out. In fact, I can't remember a time when my mom wasn't open about being GAY, or, a time when it was “normal” for my father to come home after a long day of work and embrace my mother who had just set dinner on the table…Like anybody else my mother sought out partners that shared her values, lifestyle and love. My experience with these women was filled with care, understanding and joy.... for the most part ... and of course when things weren't going my way I used the same line that children have been using against step mother’s for thousands of years...YOUR NOT MY MOM AND YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!!Of course their were my mom’s lame Jokes like always saying " The GAYRAGE" instead of the garage or telling us not to swear every time we happen to say the word "STRAIGHT" in front of her.Sure it wasn't all roses... I did turn into a teenager (enter: bad attitude and lots of drugs and alcohol)... and just like heterosexual couples some of these relationships dissolved over time...My point is that I was raised in a loving and supportive family. Does it really matter that there happen to be more women than men? I really don't see why there has to be an issue called "GAY MARRIAGE". What about recognizing all partnerships between two people that share values, lifestyle and love. Choosing a life-long partner is a very big deal and of course we don't always get it exactly right… or it doesn't always stay right. Shouldn’t we honor each other’s right to choose a partner no matter the sum total of the gender of that partnership?In any partnership there are many decisions to be made like where to live, what to spend money on and maybe ... just maybe (not always) whether or not to get married.I applaud and support California's decision to honor same sex marriages. I am also constantly disappointed that I live in a society where issues such as GAY marriage is such a big deal ... It is as though we live in a society that is still in it's adolescence ... still learning that it is not okay to hit, that if we don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all and that all people deserve the same rights and opportunities as everyone else.Maybe if we could just get through some of these infantile issues we could begin to address and solve some real issues. Like the fact that our world economy is based on a finite resource that is running out and all we can do is fight over it, like kids in the cafeteria fighting over the last chocolate milk, rather than come up with a sustainable solution… like re-branding Orange Juice making it thenewandway more hipchocolate milk……. seems like we have heard this before right ... cb
I completely agree. I grew up in what i believe to be the typical "brady bunch-wonder years" family home with a mom and dad who are highschool sweethearts and still give eachother googly eyes and a little brother. We went to church on sunday, had family dinners, family game nights, and even family meetings to discuss problems.
And even growing up more conservative my parents have always taught me that people's lives are not our bussiness even if we do not agree. And thats the point of view they had when they met my boyfriends mother and her girlfriend. They thought of them as people, not "homosexuals" or "lesbians".
I personally believe people are making too much of a big deal out of this. The typical arguement being that marriage is something sacred between a man and a woman. And maybe that's true and if it placates you, don't call it marriage call it a civil union. Who cares what its called? The biggest problem is that they don't have the rights they would if they were married.
If someone cares about someone else and they're in the hospital invalid with no other family don't you think they should have the right to know what's going on and see them?
I think people are concentrating way too much on the title of what it will be when I believe all they and their supporters are truly fighting for is to have the same rights. It scientifically proven that it isn't a choice, its something that is...just like what gender you are born or the color of your skin...so haven't we already gone through a similar argument a couple decades ago???
Absolutely agree, I think anyone and everyone has the right to marry whomever they choose. I'm not even sure that I agree with the title civil unions, why not call it marriage? Why do people care so much? How are they personally affected by gay people marrying one another? If you're a decent human being in this world than you deserve the same rights as everyone else and you deserve the rights that marriage can provide your relationship if that is what you want. People who make this a big deal just don't have enough going on in their own lives...IMO.
Oh yeah, you're from Boise, Idaho Carl? Crazy, it really is a small world after all...sorry for the use of such an annoying cliché. :)
I think that it is someone's own business what they do in the bedroom. Our government has overstepped it's bounds by giving benefits to hetero married couples in the first place. Marriage is a commitment before God, not a legal issue. If it were purely a legal issue, then why isn't it against the law to cheat on your spouse?
Thanks for your interest and comments... I believe that adultery is grounds for divorce, if not illegal, in the US.