NEWS:  Mario Confronts His Mother About Her Heroin Addiction In New MTV Documentary
 
 
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Oct 19, 2007 01:24 AM
R&B singer Mario confronts his mother about her heroin addiction in the new MTV doc "I Won't Love You to Death."
from  MTVNews
By  Jayson Rodriguez

Having a parent addicted to drugs is traumatizing for any young person, even those who are surrounded by fame and fortune.

Mario proves this much to be true in "I Won't Love You to Death: The Story of Mario and His Mom," a thinkMTV documentary that chronicles the R&B singer's touching relationship with his mother, Shawn, a heroin addict.

"By doing this type of thing, I feel like I'm saying to her, 'It's OK, what you're doing is OK,' " the Baltimore native explains in a scene in which he takes Shawn shopping. "In the back of my mind, it would feel better if I knew I was doing this for my mother [when she were] well. I felt like after I left [the store], maybe I should have said, 'No. Until you get better, I'm not doing anything for you.' But sometimes it's hard to face reality."

The doc opens with the singer narrating his accomplishments, from debuting as a young teen with his 2002 hit "Just a Friend" to his later breakout, the Ne-Yo-penned "Let Me Love You." But while his career was taking off, Mario says he was struggling with his mother's addiction, which continued to weigh heavily on him.

In one of the more memorable scenes in the film, the singer describes seeing needles throughout his home as a child, constantly worrying about his mother and sometimes not seeing her for days or weeks on end. Mario was raised in a single-parent home and eventually stayed with his grandmother while his mother was at her worst.

"I want to give you the gift of life, like you gave me," Mario pleads with Shawn during an intervention he organized with her boyfriend and close friend. Though his mother is far from strung out, she has, at that point, refused treatment and relapsed several times after short periods of sobriety.

Throughout the documentary, Mario and his mother exchange stories, swap jokes and genuinely look as close as a parent and child can be. Mario gives his mother credit for kick-starting and supporting his career, even after he moved to New Jersey to live with his first manager and only saw Shawn sparingly.

But their relationship is turbulent too. Mario is often seen trying to talk to his mother about how her addiction affects everyone around her, and he balks that she's still getting high and spending so much time in the bathroom. For her part, Shawn steadfastly refuses to admit her problem and incites a confrontation with Mario's manager, trying to edge her way into her son's career. Mario wants to welcome her in, especially to help him out while he's on tour, but he's afraid she's not quite ready.

In the end, though, after much determination, his mother decides to enter treatment at a facility in Los Angeles.

"I'm tired of living my life in the bathroom," she tells Mario. " 'Cause one day I may go in there and never come out."

Watch "I Won't Love You to Death" and then take action if you or someone you love is coping with substance abuse.

 
 
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kimbra010 623 days ago
Personally, this hurts me so much because I am such a huge fan. I hope that she gets better. This shows you that, you can have everything that you want, but something can always bring you down.
Re: Missbrandie 621 days ago
i dont feel that its always something to bring you down.if his mom wasnt on drugs maybe he wouldnt have had the dedication to make it.I mean money cant buy things like getting your mom off drugs only god can do that and seeing his mom off drugs is going to mean much more to him then any thing money can buy.
Marvelous 621 days ago
I missed Kimora Lee Simmons and The season finale of the Hogans to watch this documentary and it was WELL worth it. This film is AMAZING and will touch you.
miszdee35 621 days ago
Well, I was definitely moved by this documentary. I am a mother and it is always a blessing to have a child, and a bonus when your child is blessed with talents. I really commend Mario for his efforts in trying to help his mother but when a child is burdened with raising their mother it is so very sad. She obviously doesn't see what she's doing to him. I'm curious to know if his mom stayed for treatment longer than 5 weeks. My prayers are with them and I have always loved Mario and now I know why, he's a beautiful person inside and out.
Missbrandie 621 days ago
I totally dont understand what its like to have your mother on drugs but i cant imagine how much it would hurt I want to let mario know that Somethings happen for a reason i love the fact that he appreciate what he have and that he took that same pain in turned it into maturity and positivity and it has also made him a beautiful person on the inside.I also love the fact that not only is he trying to get help for his mom hes doing it on national television and i think that she should feel special that her journey was televised and that other people are learning from it thanks to her son.Keep Moving Foward ,God bless and ill keep you in my prayers.Bye
luvleos 621 days ago
This was an excellent documentary. Mario & Shawn, I appreciate you being willing to share your experience with the world. I pray that you allow God to keep His hand on your life. Mario continue to be a strong and supportive of your Mother. Shawn continue to make the decision that you will say "NO" to the addiction of heroine. I will continue to pray for your family and your lives. Enjoy your blessings!
Since86 621 days ago
I know exactly where he is coming from having a father who is also a drug addict...watching him at his worst and seeing him at his best to go back down to his worst. Although my father is not a heroin addict he is a crack addict..other use the term crackhead loosely, he also doesnt shoot up but has tried but when he got hip on hiding it cuz appearance is major to him he smoked it. he smoked it while "showering". he smoked it on the fire escape, he smoked it right there and no one understands where you coming from and no one understands why you act the way you do.. You love someone so much and its so hard to see them at their worst..for that moment its as though you are the parent who just saw your little 3 year old run and stumble and fall, scrape a knee and you just wanna hold them and take that pain away. You just wanna make it go away..you want to make it all better. what can you do to help them out cuz they damn sure cant do alone(no matter how many times they say they can). You watch as he takes the knife from the kitchen and heads down to the basement. you follow to watch him smoke his addiction then pursue to kill himself....hes stopped then runs off in the middle of the nite in a rainstorm, the worst of the year so far....hes off to no where or off to somewhere....a place to get high once again. To have everything in ur house flipped. what was once given to you now gone..
sexyfetus 621 days ago
Hi Shawn,

I wondered what made you get into drugs? At what point did your kids not be a reason why u didn't stop using the drugs.
Re: shaunatea 365 days ago
Everyone always wants some huge dramatic reason, maybe she didnt know what she was getting into. Thats a reason, smoke some weed drink a lil, do everything so you think why not, and then all of a suden you cant stop, it takes a hold of you, and when you see your family it hurts cuz you know what your doing to them and yourself, and you think its too late to change, too late for you and then BAm your back in it worse then before becuz of that guilt and shame, and loss of control. its tough and its not that she doesnt loe her kids, she is sick, and unfortunatley i think it sumthing like less then 10% that actually recover from heroin addiction. Its tough, and judgement does not help.
BiggRedd26 621 days ago
I hope Mario you read this...I just wanted to let you know that your story about your mother and you took a very big hit in my soul! Due to myself being a recovering meth addict and having your children be the strength and serenity is the most important tool in the recovering process and I give you love and strength to get through this! Just continue to be there for her in good and the bad and thank you for touching my heart and many others as well! With much love to you and your mother Heather Eberly (recovering meth addict for 2 yrs and 3 months to date!)
doodletriton 621 days ago
I just saw the documentary and I am a recovering Heroin addict also. I have almost 60 days clean. I admire the courage it took for both of you to have this on tv. I know it gets better everyday, everyday. One day at a time. You can recover and you can lead a heathy life. I hope you continue to stay clean and fight the never ending WAR on drugs. It was very touching to see Mario "care-front" his mother. Im sure mom is very greatful for your support, its a beautiful thing. I wish you guys all the best. Sincerely, An addict in recovery.
PrincessJab 621 days ago
Dear Mario, My mom does the same thing, and sometimes I feel guilty for the I do. I feel guilty for the decisons that she makes because I feel that she does it because she's made at me or something. See the difference between my mom and yours is that your mom trys when my mom just doesn't care. Every day I look at my mother and wonder where is her life taking her. Is this drug use going to kill her? What is it? Sometimes I wonder why she even started. I feel pain that I shouldn't because I know I try to help her get over it. It's like we take 2 steps foward and she takes 10 backward. It hard trying to help a fein. Blessings goes out to you, your family, and your mom. Chow bella!!!!
shiningstarr 621 days ago
I feel where Mario is coming from. I went through a simular experience with my mother. Me being the youngest child of 3, I was the one there through it all. My brother and sister left. My mom is a strong woman we got through it all and our relationship is closer than ever.
iyanna 621 days ago
Mario, I have much respect for what you are doing for your mom. Don't give up on her. You stay in prayer and I can promise you things will change for the better. Don't pull your spirits down in the meanwhile. You let go and let God work it out. Love Ya.
natashika18 621 days ago
i knw how it feel's b/c my mom is still on drugs and it hurts me so much so i knw where mario is coming from and i try and try to help out but she just dosen't want it. i thought by moving away from her would do her some gd but it didn't. and she always find these dudes that are not gd 4 her they be on drugs with her or they are the drug dealer's and she get what she want's. and every time i say some thing is going to go wrong or they going to put you out on the street it alway's happen and then after it happens she say you was right i should have listend to you in the first place. Me personally been through hell and back i have lived on a parking lot with rats and ****, in a rooming house most of the time by myself b/c she chose her boyfriend over me got put out of her boyfriends house b/c they where fighting and i told her it was going to happen again b/c he did it b4. So i knw what it feel's like and i'm 18 now she been doing it b4 i was even born. So i think mario and i have something in common!
Re: shaunatea 365 days ago
thats so tough, i feel for you, it takes alot of balls to come out and even say something like that has happened to you. im sorry thqat you had to go through that but i know that it makes you a stronger person and defintly more real, you know. i like to think that all the **** that i had to go through was all to keep me from living on a pedestal, you know?
ketch2269 621 days ago
Mario thanks.. For allowing me to see someone else go thru the same struggle and know that with faith and the Lord and love and support were able to help our mothers.. The whole time I sit their watching you interaction with you mother. I said dam am I talking to my mother.. I understood you struggle. even tho I'm older than you I was able to gain strength from you. NOt to be ashame of my mom. I mean dam you shared your story with the world only the neighbors in my area know.. My GOD bless you and Your.... Know that you are more that a conquer!!!!!!
It is good to see people discussing how difficult it is to live with someone who is addicted. Mario should be commended for his courage to break the veil of shame and secrecy that follows the disease of addiction. By educating himself on how not to love his mother to death he has taken the first step in his own recovery. My journey also began when I educated myself. Personally well as professionally , as a counselor and interventionist I have seen the difference it makes to talk about addiction please give yourself that opportunity.


http://www.al-anon.alateen.org
aahah 621 days ago
SEEING MARIO'S EPISODE SUN ON HIS MOMS HEROINE ADDICTION, MADE ME REALIZE THAT THERE ISN'T JUST ONE STORY TO THE ADDICTION. I WAS ABOUT 11 WHEN I REALIZED MY MOM WAS USING HEROIN AND I LEFT WHEN I WAS 15. BUT I CHOSE TO LEAVE HER AND START A SO CALLED NORMAL LIFE WITHOUT DRUGS IN IT. AND I NEVER LOOKED BACK TO SEE WHAT BECAME OF HER. SEEING YOUR SHOW MADE ME THINK ABOUT WHAT IF I STAYED AND TRIED TO HELP HER OUT, OR JUST STUCK AROUND TO SEE HER THROUGH SOME THINGS. BUT I WAS YOUNG AND I CHOSE TO GET OUT AND TRY TO SURVIVE THE BEST WAY I CAN WITHOUT A MOM. I GIVE YOU BIG PROPS FOR DOING WHAT YOU CAN TO HAVE YOUR MOM IN YOUR LIFE.
sacoyabklynsfinest 621 days ago
Mario if u read this I just want to let u know that I have always liked you as a singer however I now have more respect for you. You never let your mothers problems slow your career down. I hope that she stays on the straight and narrow road. She is a very beautiful person inside and outside and I know she can do it. I applaud her for at least trying the intervention that you set up for her. I too have a parent who suffers from substance abuse the only difference is my parent doesn't want to stop. I can tell just from watching the hour long show that your mom loves you 2 death and this is something she is stronger than. She will overcome this DISEASE. Mario keep your head high and your heart with GOD and everything will be okay. Congratulations on your success and I wish you many more years of happiness in your life. SHAWN U GO GIRL!!!! U CAN DO IT!

P.S. HAPPY 21ST BIRTHDAY!! HOPE U ENJOYED YOURSELF:-)
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